WATCH YOUR MOUTH

Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you (I Thessalonians 4:11)

I know you thought I was getting ready to say something else, but this needs and will be said today.  There is nothing wrong with a meek and quiet spirit.  You can be bubbly and full of personality, but yet still have a meek and quiet spirit because with that attribute comes wisdom. In other words, knowing when its appropriate to be all that you are and knowing when its appropriate to tone it down.

The word of God tells us in James 3: 5-8 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

The tongue is just a small part of our makeup, but it can cause all kinds of drama, confusion, and mess in our lives when we don't learn to shut our mouths.  Yes, I said shut it.  Your tongue can set it off in 0.3 seconds and before you can bat an eyelash all eyes will be on you because of something crazy you just said.  Because wisdom says when you cannot handle something, then learn to shut down the thing you can't handle.  Out of our mouths come good and bad things, but when we don't put a zipper on our lips at the appropriate time we can ruin a good thing.  My mother use to say every thing that comes up does not need to come out.  In other words, just because you think it in your head, doesn't mean it needs to be said.  We have to learn as women of God that the attribute of a meek and quiet spirit is not an attempt to shut us down, but its pleasantry that is appreciated by most mature men. 

A immature man wants a messy woman thats full of foolishness and folly.  But a man who is full grown wants a woman who knows how to handle herself and walks in wisdom not only in her ministry but in her personal life.  If you spend all of your time gossipping, wanting to argue, keeping up foolishness, who do you think wants to deal with that kind of drama?  You want to be married to the Bishop, but you don't have the character to draw the doorkeeper.  Come on, let's be real here.  I'm going to lay it out to you straight.  Because our mouths can and will get us in more trouble than any other attribute or personality flaw.  Because to be sure people will assume the things that come out of you are coming from the heart.  In fact the words says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45).  Repeating things other people have said, being a busy-body, having filthy communication coming out of your mouth are all turn offs. Are you really speaking your heart when you say those things?

If you don't want a good man to move on and you want to be the kind of woman that attracts the kind of man you see in your spirit, then heed to the voice of the Lord.  Watch your mouth!