Where Is My Peace?

Colosians 3:15
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.

There are things and people the enemy uses to try to pull the foundation right from under you.  These people are used to disrupt your life, disrupt your purpose, and bring an end to your peace.  Peace is connected to your heart.  When your heart is affected by something it unsettles you and makes you feel chaotic within. 

It took me a long time to realize that I had given my peace away, when I gave my heart away.  There was something else ruling in my heart, not the peace of Christ.  My heart was displaced because my heart should have never been given away.  When we give our hearts away we give our peace away.  Our hearts should belong to the Lord, not to a person.  We've leant our place of contentment, our palce solace to someone who does not have the capacity or grace to handle it.  Only the Lord can handle the heart appropriately.  So when we give the power of our heart to someone, we've given them authority over the atmosphere of our lives.  Allowing them to invade into areas they don't belong.  That is why women find it so very difficult to get over things and suffer many years of pain and hurt over people.  We've given grace to people who were not capable or even called into that area of grace.

Our hearts indeed belong to God, but God has given us permission to love, but not to give our hearts away.  Everyone is always trying to find that one great love of their lives.  That is the world system, not God's system.  The problem is, God should be the only one true love of your life.  Everyone and anyone else should be loved with the measure of love that God has given us to love them with.  He has commanded us to love.  Love your neighbor as yourself.  Husband's love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.  No where in there does it say give someone your heart and soul.  But his commandment is to love him with all our heart, all of our soul, all of our mind, and all of our strength.  If someone else has our heart, we are compromising God's commandment, our relationship with him, and allowing someone else to rule where only God should be.  When we give our hearts away to people there is a certain devastation that comes along with the end of the matter.  We would not feel this type of devastation when we follow the order of God's word.  With giving our hearts to God, there is no devasation with that relationship.  With giving our hearts to people, we feel anguish so deeply because we allowed that person into a place in us that they should not be. 

When our hearts belong to a person and they mishandle it there is no peace in our lives.  If you look back over relationships you will see that you invested all of your heart into someone, who mishandled it and your life was left in shambles because of it.  They didn't have the grace to handle what you gave them.  Don't give someone the responsibility of handling your heart when they are neither capable or adequately equipped to do so.  I've done that a few times and it took the Holyghost to bring me out of the state I was left in.  You cannot allow someone to rule the fragments of your heart.  That is the Lord's place.

I always thought that was the way it should be in a relationship with a person.  But not so.  When I realized I had given someone permission to intrude into my peace and to rule my heart, I had to acknowledge that it was my fault and make some corrections in my thinking.  We think we have to go all in and give our very soul to people.  This is not the will of God concerning us.  First of all, God is not going to allow you to stay in a relationship where he is not center of your life.  He wants to be first, he will be first.  God is a jealous God and will not allow someone to come in an take over your heart.  You will not have any other god's before him. 

Let the peace of God rule in your hearts and you can only do that when your heart belongs to God.  When it truly belongs to God.  So you ask, where is my peace, but your peace is in him.  It is not in your relationship.  It is not whether things work out with this one or that one.  I kept hearing someone in my past say all of the time, "I just want peace".  The problem with that statement is that this person's peace seeking was misdirected.  The person was looking for peace in a relationship with a person and not looking in the right place trying to find that peace. When you keep thinking that acquiring peace is changing partners or having that partner do what you think they should be doing, you will never have peace in your life.  Jesus said, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives (Jn 14:27).  Nobody can give you something that only God was designed to give.  Looking to people to fulfill what God can only give will always have you asking where is my peace.  Give your whole heart to him and you will have peace even in the midst of trouble.