LET GO OF THAT

I want to talk about soul ties today. Sometimes we do not realize that we have connected to someone in a way that has kept us locked in and not knowing that you under bondage. Anytime that you exchange bodily fluids you can develop a soul tie, although, sexual soul ties tend to run much deeper than other connections.  What I mean is that kissing does not connect you in the same way that sexual relations does.  You can kiss someone and feel a strong attraction and connection to them, but when you connect with them on a sexual level then those fluids are released into you and you become connected in a way that only married people should be tied. When you connect with someone in the flesh in is two-fold both spiritual and natural. This is why this particular connection attaches at a deeper level. It is because your body and your spirit craves to remain attached.  This can make it very difficult to walk away from relationships when you have crossed the line to that level as opposed to those that were only developed on one level. 

You can also develop soul ties on a spiritual level only.  When you are connected to someone on a spiritual level such as when someone prays for another individual.  You have a God connection to them.  Your heart is connected in a supernatural way and disconnecting can leave you damaged.  Much like when a spiritual Father/Mother aborts their child.  You mourn the lose deeply.

A small definition of a soul tie is it is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring fourth both beneficial results and negative results. For example the positive effects of a soul tie exist between man and wife.  Biblically a man and wife should connect in this way.  In a godly marriage, God links the two together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together and they will cleave onto one another in a unique way. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and a woman.

Matthew 19:5, "And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh."

Soul ties can also be found in close strong or close friendships. They are not just limited to marriage as I said earlier, as we can see with King David and Jonathan:

1 Samuel 18:1, "And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul."

The enemy can use soul ties to manipulate us and pull us into areas of sin that are weaknesses for us. These areas that God desires to deliver us from. It is often that we are weak because we are unaware oftentimes that we have left a door open for the enemy to use against us. The negative effects of soul ties can be seen in:

 Genesis 34:2-3, "And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul cleaved unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly unto the damsel."

The enemy developed a soul tie and gained an advantage over Shechem and caused not only him but Dinah to become defiled from the sexual sin between the two of them. This is why it is so common for a person to still have 'feelings' towards an ex-lover that they have no right to be attracted to in that way. Even 20 years down the road, a person may still think of their first lover... even if he or she is across the country and has their own family, all because of a soul tie!

Demonic spirits can also take advantage of ungodly soul ties, and use them to transfer spirits between one person to another. This can be accomplished either through bodily fluids or spiritual manipulation.  This is why it is crucial to be very careful who you link up with.  Your connections could render either positive or negative influence on you spiritually.  It could be detrimental to your spiritual well being.

We have to come to a place where we can “let go of that”. And know that it is indeed gone and we are free from it.  We must denounce some things from our past whether it is sexual sins, spiritual connections, and sometimes places that we have gone to that caused us to carry something away with us that caused us to stumble or keeps us in bondage.  For example, if every time you pass by Joe Willy’s Bar and Grill you want to go home and do things to yourself, you have to ask yourself where that’s coming from and petition God for answers. 

Sometimes we try to hold people in our spirit that really don’t care for us, never did, and we never should have allowed in our hearts from the beginning. We even try to hold on to people who have moved on in life with other people. The enemy will give you strong delusions regarding a relationship that is not there and cause you to stumble.  In some instances put you right in the middle of that persons relationship and cause him/her to stumble as well. I have been down this road.  I have given more of myself away that I should have and been left with nothing but a need to go through deliverance all over again! We cannot allow this spirit of manipulation to torment our minds and keep us polluted.

So I appeal to you today to search yourselves regarding soul ties. Anytime you date somebody for any extended period of time you’re emotions are getting intermingled with theirs and you become connected in a spiritual way.  As women we tend to give more away than we should and usually far sooner than wisdom dictates. We get emotionally attached early on and without knowing whether the other person has really committed to us in the same manner. The point being, is that getting connected so easily before knowing what God is saying to you regarding the relationship is not wise. I understand this because I have done this and lived to regret it. Dare I say, many times before.  Sometimes you would think that conventional wisdom would step forward and speak during those times.  In retrospect, it has, but the reality is that we normally overrule that and continue down the same road of destruction.  Again, I am guilty of this. I’ve done some really unwise things, made some poor choices, and it has always come back to bite me.  But because of my poor choices, I am able to share with you my experience and pray that you will be guided by the Holyspirit and not be lead by your own spirit.

Somehow the world has taught us that we need to take risk to be in a relationship and for love.  But I don’t find that anywhere in the scripture.  I know what you’re thinking; the rules of faith do not apply here my sisters.  If it’s God, it’s God.  If it’s not, it’s not.  That’s the bottom line.  He does not lead us to do foolish things and make unwise decisions for the sake of love.  I’m I clear here? The Lord establishes a thing first and not after.  In other words, God does not do the lottery when it comes to what he says.  Meaning, you do not have to buy a ticket and take a chance on winning.  God will put it together and there is no risk involved in what he puts together.  Is that more clear?

So, I’ll wrap it up today, but I really wanted to share a little about soul ties and how real they are. We should be careful to ask the Lord if who we want to allow in our space is who he wants in our space. Don’t be so eager to get caught up in a thing before you know its God. There are some lessons that you do not want to learn the hard way.

God bless my sisters and pray you have a blessed and prosperous day in Jesus!