You might have decided that you are ready for a serious relationship and/or are ready for marriage. Back some months I shared with all that I didn't know when I would be emotionally ready because there is no time line in how you will heal and how you feel emotionally. Sometimes it takes months and some people it may take years before they are ready to move on. Then there are those who never get over what they've gone through so they torture everybody who wants to pursue them. I decided I definitely did not want to be one of those people who held on to things in my heart and became bitter. There is nothing more difficult for a man than having to peel through layers of the past trying to get to the real woman and many of them do not have the patience, time, or tolerance for a woman who is still dealing with unresolved issues from her past. Can we say that we cannot blame him for feeling this way and eventually moving on because he does not want to deal with that drama. That's why I always say, while you have an opportunity work through those feelings, close doors, let go of some things so you will not take baggage into the next relationship.
I had an opportunity to go to a Christian counselor, which I do advise for people who feel they might need to talk to someone to help them sort through their feelings. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Whether it's your pastor, senior person in ministry, or a professional, it's good to work through what you are feeling so that you can come to a point of closure on the past and put things in perspective. This will also help you gauge exactly where you are in terms of whether you are emotionally ready to move on or you need more time.
When we do not let go of our past, we leave the door open for the enemy to wreak havoc on our vulnerabilities. When we are at an emotional place in our lives, we are like an open womb. This place of vulnerability is a door that can be penetrated very easily if we do not intend to the areas that need to be addressed. This can lead down a path of doing, saying, and behaving in ways that compromise our character. This is why I impressed upon you to ensure that attend to those areas of vulnerability and do not assume that they are gone simply because what you perceived as the problem is no longer in your life. You still have residue from that thing that you considered the problem that should and needs to be attended to. It is essential to your spiritual, mental, and emotional well-being.
Unless you have taken the time to address those areas, you cannot truly say that you are even ready for something new. God will not send him until you are ready. Work on your spirit man, your emotional man, your physical man so that you are complete. I know that I've mentioned in times past one of the worst things a woman can be is insecure. Insecurity breeds familiar spirits. The commonality that you will find with someone when you are insecure will not be from a good place. The draw will be from the spirit that is drawing you both together and not because it is a connection that God has placed together. So be careful that you address areas that need attention so that you will feel your very best and really be ready. Then the Lord can release whomever he has slated just for you!
I had an opportunity to go to a Christian counselor, which I do advise for people who feel they might need to talk to someone to help them sort through their feelings. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Whether it's your pastor, senior person in ministry, or a professional, it's good to work through what you are feeling so that you can come to a point of closure on the past and put things in perspective. This will also help you gauge exactly where you are in terms of whether you are emotionally ready to move on or you need more time.
When we do not let go of our past, we leave the door open for the enemy to wreak havoc on our vulnerabilities. When we are at an emotional place in our lives, we are like an open womb. This place of vulnerability is a door that can be penetrated very easily if we do not intend to the areas that need to be addressed. This can lead down a path of doing, saying, and behaving in ways that compromise our character. This is why I impressed upon you to ensure that attend to those areas of vulnerability and do not assume that they are gone simply because what you perceived as the problem is no longer in your life. You still have residue from that thing that you considered the problem that should and needs to be attended to. It is essential to your spiritual, mental, and emotional well-being.
Unless you have taken the time to address those areas, you cannot truly say that you are even ready for something new. God will not send him until you are ready. Work on your spirit man, your emotional man, your physical man so that you are complete. I know that I've mentioned in times past one of the worst things a woman can be is insecure. Insecurity breeds familiar spirits. The commonality that you will find with someone when you are insecure will not be from a good place. The draw will be from the spirit that is drawing you both together and not because it is a connection that God has placed together. So be careful that you address areas that need attention so that you will feel your very best and really be ready. Then the Lord can release whomever he has slated just for you!
Selah!
Pastor/Apostle of Breakforth Ministries International
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