Don't Be Bitter

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: (Ephesians 4:31)

I was reading an article which discussed the things one might go through when a relationship comes to an end.  In laymen’s terms when you get dumped and you are the recipient and not the dumpee, it is often unexpected to you, though your partner may have been thinking about it for some time.  You are totally taken by surprised at the dismissal of your feelings and hopes in the relationship and how abruptly it seemed to come to an end.  What really bugs you is that they are so emotionally detached when they kick you to the curb.  It’s because they were already thinking about it and had the whole dump process well thought out.

For me, having been married most of my adult life, I haven’t experienced this much, but I can tell you the pain of when I did go through it is much like that of when you lose someone who has died.  You go through the same emotions and physical pain sometimes, and often you may even feel physically ill.  It is not a pleasant experience.  I personally cried for weeks, then I became angry and beyond anger there is bitterness.

What do you do when you are faced with this kind of situation and how do you go on after having hoped and made plans to spend your life with someone and then to find that this person who you have invested your time, love, and emotion in has cast you aside with no regard to your feelings.  The rejection can drive you to one of two places, to your knees or to your old man.  You have to decide which one is going to be in charge.  You have a choice.

Well, I would venture to say that it is quite easy to be angry and even bitter, and some times want revenge.  But as Godly women we cannot go to such extremes, though it might make our flesh feel better, God would certainly not be pleased at our blatant disregard to violating his standards, commands, and investment he has put into us.  You see, just like an employee who has spent time, money, and countless hours of training to make you the best employee to do the job they hired you to do, God chose you and called you for a purpose before the foundation of the world to do something for him (Eph 1:4).  If we waste all of our time and energy on thinking about how someone else hurt us and how we can get them back, we lose precious time that the Lord could be pouring into us. We disregard the investment God has made into us preparing us to be vessels fit and meet for the master's use (2 Tim 2:21).

Do we want to do that?  Seriously….  The very person that we are spending all of our time thinking about and hoping for and even praying for is not even thinking about you.  Don’t waste your precious anointed self sitting around plotting and scheming, just find your way back to your knees and love on Jesus until that thing leaves your spirit.