YOU MAKE THE CALL

How do you decide when it's the right time to move on with your life after a break up.  Believe me, you get a whole lot of advice ranging from go out on dates it will help you get over it, to fast and pray your way till you know, and finally you will just know. But how do you just know?  How do you fall out of love with someone when you know there's no future for whatever reasons.  It doesn't matter if it ended on a good note or a bad note, you still have to deal with the emotions left from the relationship.

It's tough and there are no easy answers.  Unfortunately, what might be right for me or someone else might not be the right solution for you.  Some people throw themselves into work or ministry, something to occupy their time, but really at the end of the day it does not help you deal with the emotion that is left and at some point it will have to be dealt with.  What you do not want to do is still be left with emotional baggage somewhere down the road when 6'4" Boaz appears and you suddenly realize you still have unresolved feelings from your past. 

I don't have a scriptural reference today, just some real talk for you.  I looked at my own heart and own situation so that I can help someone else deal with the wounds that are still badly in need of care today.  Many people will tell you many things.  They will even give you a word and tell you God said this and God said that.  Whether those prophetic words are valid for your situation is clearly something you will have to search your spirit to confirm, but do not rely on what someone else told you to confirm only what your spirit can confirm through the Holyspirit.  In other words, don't let someone else tell you God said it's time for you to find love again, or for you to move on now.  You have to be the one to make that call. Don't allow people to push you into places you are not ready to go into.

If the Lord hasn't delivered you from one place, he will not move you into another.  That's out of order.  I had to learn this the hard way.  Get unresolved emotions and baggage resolved from the former before you move into something new.  Whether it takes you a month, six months, a year or however long it takes you to work through it, you make the call.  There are no hard or fast rules, no set time of mourning.  There is no set process that determines what is appropriate and what isn't.  If you're not ready, then you're not.  When you are, then you are.  If you don't want to, then you don't, if you do, then you do.

So basically, what I'm saying to you today is the only person who can determine what is on the inside of you, is you.  You know what's in your heart.  You know what you are feeling.  You know if you still have something there that needs to be worked through.  Don't hide from your pain.  Don't suppress it.  Don't bring someone else into your life to masked it.  Search yourself and ask God to help you work all of that out of you ahead of time.  Then one day you will sense in your spirit, now I'm ready, you will truly be prepared from the inside out.