I looked around my place and saw momentos and gifts, tokens of affection given to me. I looked on my computer and phone, there were pictures. Is there no wonder it is difficult to move on if constant reminders are everywhere around me? How is that we think we can somehow move past something that is always right there in our faces?
The fact is if the relationship was more than a casual, like for some of us marriage and some physical birthed out of disobedience. There is a soul-tie that has been developed from the relationship that needs tending to so that you can detach and disconnect from what has you tied up. It's a form of bondage because anytime you exchange body fluids with someone a deposit is made in you and residue of their characteristics are left with you. That's why there are so many flipped out women running around because too many deposits have been made in them and they have not been delivered from the soul-ties. In other words, deposits were left, but nothing went out. That's why some women don't know who they are because they have too many people's residue in them.
If you notice that any time you have a physical relationship with someone that over time you begin to have some of the same behavorial characteristics. You pick up some of their habits, they pick up some of yours, etc. You begin to act similarly. When we come out of relationships it is important that we get delivered from the ties that bind. It's not just the material things, but those things do keep things alive in us, but its more the attachment in the spirit that I'm talking about.
If it was a relationship birthed out of sin you will have to repent and denounce. What you want to have happen is for God to release that thing from out of your spirit. A relationship birthed out of sin and disobedience, keeping momentos is a bad idea. It's like saying you love Jesus, but you have a statue of Buddha in your livingroom. If you're Godly sorry then stop holding on to parts of your sin. I'm not saying give your car away if he bought you one, but certainly don't keep holding on to things that are a direct link to your sin relationship and could cause you to slip again. Sitting looking at that photo all day while wearing the nightie he gave you, bad idea sisters. I'm just saying. Speak the word over yourself and denounce the attachment and break the stronghold over your life.
Proverbs 28:13 states, He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy. You want to find mercy in the eyesight of the Lord. You want to renounce that attachment and get released from the residue. I John 1:9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. The Lord is ever faithful we do not have to walk in guilt from the past, but we need to get delivered from the past. Just because you came out of the relationship doesn't mean the relationship came out of you. Now just soak on that for a minute.
The same applies for women who have come out of marriage relationships there is residue that's why you have a love/hate relationship with your ex. I'm telling you, this is not an easy process. It is difficult to completely get delivered from people you have had a physical relationship with. That thing will try to stay attached to you as long as you don't deal with it. The reason why some women fall into rebound relationships is because they still have residue from their past and are looking for someone to give them parts of what they gave up. You attached so hard and so quick to the new thing, when really its the old thing that you are attaching to with someone new.
I pray for you sisters to allow God to help you detach in your spirit so that the enemy will not use that as an occasion to cause you to sin and so you will not still be clinging to the past in your spirit and mess up your future.
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